it's official . . .I think I should be friends with Britney Spears. How's this for a headline . . . my husbands girlfriend just had their baby?
That is ex, even though the divorce isn't quite final yet. It didn't really bother me before knowing she was pregnant, but my SIL who has the least tact on earth just told me how excited she was to be an auntie again. She also sends the same emails to both me and ex's girlfriends which I think is tacky too. I didn't want to burn my britches with his family but now I think I need to. It just feels too weird. I'm happy for them, if they are happy. I was just hoping that our divorce would be final before the baby was born.
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Yes. your SIL sent a tacky email. She have first of all sent it to you privately in a more conciderate fashion. She is obviously naive because it should have been written in a more sensitive manner. Also why would she send this news to his other ex girlfirends....that's bizarre!
Anyways as time goes on your ties will sever. It's fine to be cordial and polite towards the family and that can continue but frequent emails and phone calls won't be good for you in the long run. Be strong and continue your path!
ps. I could write a book on this subject :)
I know where you are coming from. Only my ex (from a relationship looong ago) had custody of our son. How nice that my son got to visit with all the step witches relatives but I couldn't see the kid. Had to go to court for visiting rights.
Just be glad you can sever ties with this relationship and walk away. You don't have to stick around because of kids.
Reginagirl........just go with your instincts......you should never allow another person to make you feel uncomfortable, YOU are the only one in control of yourself........OMG, I'm beginning to sound like Dr. Phil :biglol:
like sil as a person but the cost is just too high to stay in touch. His family is nothing like him :) so I would have liked to keep in touch.
and you want to stay in touch with them why? Something tells me you would do just fine without any ties to them at all. You can probably put xSIL's email on block to save you any more 'news' you don't need to hear.
you have done a awesome job moving on....but i think somethings can still feel like a kick.........i think your exSIL is being very inconsiderate! I also think your ex could have waited until the divorce was at least final...........carry on girl, you have showed who the bigger person is.
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Ex SIL is being insensitive in my opinion.......I guess it is hard when you go through a divorce....you are not only saying goodbye to your partner but their family...and sometimes those relationships are harder to lose......sorry that you are dealing with this.......
Even though the divorce isn't final, it is probably best to start thinking about that time of your life as history. ExSIL isn't being very considerate of either you or his new GF by having you on the same list. I'd refrain from any communication with ExSIL and hope you get removed from her list when she sees you aren't interested. If she keeps telling you info you don't really need to know then it will be time to politely tell her you've started a new chapter in your life without the EX so would rather not know anything about him but wish everyone the best. If you want to keep in touch with her only, then do it.
As Jeep said - good for you in taking the highroad.
Good for you taking the high road and not causing a big tiff (even if you had a right to). I think it is probably time to break off with that family and ask exSIL not to send you a group email "tacky" I am sure GF doesn't like it either.