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You know you are always extra-welcome whereever I am...fellow Italiana and word-lover that you are. We have that special bond...
sorry if it sounded like I was complaining...I was really just teasing...no one has ever made me feel left out. I think you are a witty entertaining bunch & always welcoming of others in your "chatty" sessions. Keep the laughs rolling...:D
Paesana... I am glad your feelings were not hurt.
I HAVE NO COMPLAINTS!!! about this thread...I think everyone is free to chat about what you want...& delete as you see fit. Frankly, if all had been left alone none of this would have happened. I don't blame you one bit for not leaving your e-mail addresses on the board- & understand completely that somewhere, somehow this info needs to be traded...like we so often do for other topics. Shame, this place use to be a fun escape, let's not look for reasons to get annoyed with each other...I'm certain there is no ill-intent on anyones behalf. For the record I myself have not taken any offense in this matter, I feel compelled to state this because I am listed in your previous post. I think it is fantastic that friendships have developed form this forum...I have formed some of my own- & they are turning out to be a wonderful experience...;)
organize a chat through e-mail, without first getting one another's e-mail addresses?
Truly, no harm was meant to anyone else's feelings. That is, in fact, why we first came here instead of hanging around the D&D forum, taking up space. As you can tell from the undeleted posts, Artsy and I are chat neophytes, and needed some help from AAN to figure out how to use an "instant messanger" service.
It seems that our very efforts to avoid upsetting others have had the opposite effect! How sad for us! I like you all, Smoodgie, Chico, Dy'n. I think our intentions were overlooked.
We did not mean to exclude, but to avoid attracting the criticism that has been levelled in the past, that we are too long-winded when we engage in foolish rapport that has nothing to do with home decor.
Please reconsider, and ask yourselves if this is not the same as others arranging a little shopping excursion together, or someone getting Mambogirl's address to privately order her prints, or any of the other somewhat "exclusive" interactions that have occured on the forum.
I know many forum users appreciate Artsy's dedicated help and AAN's whimsical and humorous comments. I hope that all three of us will continue to be welcomed on the forum without reservations.
I didn't say that you shouldn't delete posts that contain personal information -- I don't like to post personal stuff either. What I'm saying is, you should organize these private chats through e-mail, not on the board.
I see now which post you're referring to as being deleted.... I guess she decided that she didn't want to express an unpopular opinion. But it IS her choice to delete it, if she wants. Same as any other poster who doesn't want to leave something on the board.... right?!
Again, my original intent was to point out that setting up private chats on a public board may make some people feel left out and unwelcome -- that's all.
Since I posted my first reply, someone else scolded me/us for deleting posts and then went on to delete their own… I think you know which one I'm referring to as you made reference to it although it is no longer there, but I found this one in particular to be very upsetting.)
We started the chat on D&D Saturday night, and decided to move it to General, to avoid the accumulation of posts on D&D. There was never any secrecy about the move. In an attempt to explore other chat options, as Artsy is on a MAC and cannot access the H&H chat, there were no other options for us than to exchange the info on the board. I feel it is our prerogative if we like to do this or not.
I, personally, feel very uneasy about having my private information on the Internet for everyone to see, and just for the record, for the short amount of time these posts were accessible on the forum, I received weird messages from strangers, so clearly our “fear” isn’t unjustified .
The deleted threads were the ones containing personal information such as email addresses etc etc. Not something I am willing to have posted publicly for a long time.
Why would those threads be of interest to others ? They didn't contain any more information, hence why we left the rest of the chatty posts there.
Chico explained it perfectly -- it's fine to have private chats, of course. And yes, it's much better to have those chats in a private forum, like MSN. But using the board as a means of setting up these chats is what I object to. It's like you have an exclusive little "chat club" that you're setting up in front of everyone, but not inviting everyone to participate in.
I have to protest a bit.. :)
I don't quite get what you mean? You are offended we don't carry on private chatty topics here for everyone to read? I would think it was better that we took our private conversations elsewhere, when we want to talk about other things than decorating instead of flooding the board. Someone was upset with this a while back :)
I felt like I was going out on a limb there... it's good to know I'm not alone!!
amen........you tell 'em girl.
Turning a public forum into a private clique isn't right.... it could make long-time H&H members feel snubbed and new members feel left out and unwelcome.
Of course, everyone is free to chat with whomever they choose -- but to publicly announce private chats is kind of like being in high school and having the popular girls invite the other popular girls to a party in front of you and leaving you out. Not so nice.
:( So sad...I finally log on after a crazy week & you are all gone:( Tried to catch up to chat but you deleted too fast...maybe next time I can play too? Hottie et tu?;(
skip H&H. Go off the forum. Just go to your yahoo account and join the chat and look for AAN's message
go back and hit "Hotmail". In the mean time, I will sign up for Yahoo and see if the three of us can chat there.
H & H thing it says it is not compatible with mac. Maybe I have to go back to the main msn menu?
I added you to my contact list but it says "not online". Go online
that does take some brain cells indeed, not too mention the math that must be involved :)
what is your account? I want to talk to you!
Your are on my "contact" list... the only one! Shows you as not online. Get on!
give us your phoney address.
Civil. My father is the head of a structural engineering firm, though he is not an engineer. My father is also really smart. My DP's eldest is in a Master's Program in Engineering Physics. Extra smart.
I have many friends who are engineers, Marine, chemical..etc etc. Could be lots of money depending on what he wants to do. And you have to be smart!! :)
It says "add a contact" and you pick "e-mail account" or "sign-in" name. I will give you my bogus e-mail account (and I am sure Alex will play) and we can chat like the kids do.
Just get a Hotmail account. Install MSN Messanger. Click the little green man icon and you are on MSN. Then, add AAN and I to your contacts and we can chat privately. Are you up for it?
we are all clever enough to figure out how to chat on MSN. Let's give each other our incognito accounts and go on.
or an architect. OK with me. My daughter is also very smart, but more artistic. My son likes to know about odd things like how insurance works. My daughter is totally bored by such conversations but reads a lot of fiction and draws very well.
just like your Uni. prof, I had a math teacher in high-school who used to talk about free hash instead of teaching, needless to say the entire class flunked. I am extremely stupid in math, but I only use my left side of the brain, so I'm really ok, and I kill with a calculator.
Smart mother, get that son into medical school. I wish I had... :(
I haven't tried it. I am pretty happy with Hunky, but if he annoys me, who knows?
Math is only one part of smart. A big one, I admit. I nag my kids about math because it is the one class you can't play "catch up" with. You probably just got distracted by hormones or something and missed a year of math and never caught up. That doesn't count. Tell your "DH" I said so.