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that last sentence is so revealing! I am going to use that line on my kids - I am surprised my mother didn't use it on me! I thought she used ALL the mother lines on me!
I will try your threats on my family and see where I get.
No it's not my alter ego, it's my ego. If they don't, no food, no cleaning, no shopping, etc. and the big smack comes their way!!! It's only a word and it costs them nothing to use it.
How do you get your family to do that? I wish to be called "the Queen", "Goddess", "Your Majesty", "Your Worship" or even just "Boss", but they all just snicker and keep calling me "Mom" or "Hey you" or worse!
Is it perhaps your parakeet that addresses you in this fashion? Or maybe it is your alter-ego?
Just wondering.
Goddess is the name I go buy at home so I think that would be very appropriate in my case.
Jason indicated that he is going to post a message on Decorating & Design where we can make suggestions of title names for the 1000+ posters! I love "Goddess", you will have to suggest this one! :)
I think once you have reach 500 or 1000 (whatever number) you should no longer be a guru, you should become a goddess. What do you think?
I am really glad to hear your opinion. Having perspective from new members is VERY important because there are many people who visit the forum who haven't registered yet. I hope that you do not feel intimidated to join in ... that is what it is all about! I agree with you about keeping things in one place and am also concerned about interrupting the flow! The more opinions the we receive the better! I think everyone feels a bit apprehensive in the beginning (I certainly did). Look at me know though ... I’m one of the big time “chatters” now, lol! :)
since i'm new to forum i'm a little anxious about giving my opinion on such a topic -but here it goes! I think it's obvious by the number of post under the 80's etc... people do want to chat. It seems most post however are about decorating. It is a little difficult to look through all the chat especailly if the chat is not posted as a new topic. That's the only con I see. Rules, having to switch forums or even sites may disrupt the flow and make some apprehensive about saying what is on their mind. Scared the chats won't be open to all. Enjoy reading all post. But it takes a while to be confident enough to express opinions when you are new.
I think this is what my niece must be doing with her friends. She is often talking/typing to more than one person at a time. I suspect that this might be an administrative nightmare to set-up but it is certainly worth considering or at least mentioning to Jason on tech. This way we can all stay in one area right?
Hehe - we all - well, most - contribute to the non decor chatter. I do MSN with my aunt and some girlfriends, and I like it, but I like the forum the way it is too. Oh well, we shall see how it goes. I don't mind being banished to chatter.
I have to leave for a bit. If Dreamer shows up on D & D, can someone give her the heads up to check this message. I would like to hear what she has to say.
Firsthome ... that is a REALLY interesting idea!!! Would it make other members feel alienated (if they are not invited to join in)? The way it is now, anyone can read or participate if they want. :)
in the beginning I did go to the other forums and found out quickly that D & D was the hot ticket! You may be right though. For me ... I just find it easier to be in one place. I sometimes wish people would be more descriptive with their titles (so you can tell off the bat what it is about) but I'm not complaining because I love D & D and all of you!
I think it would be nice if all the forums made available to us got a bit of action. I visit all the forums daily, and it's always D&D with most or all of the movement. (with new topics moving to the bottom quickly because of it) It's rather like going to a great party where the hostess has spiffied up several rooms for her guests to mingle in, yet without fail almost everyone ends up gathering in the kitchen, LOL.
I've wondered why most seem to post mostly in just one forum, the D&D. I figured maybe since all of us are new to this fairly new site, maybe not everyone knew there were more forums than just one.
OHHHH!! So what are you trying to say???? That it's MY FAULT! Well, I never!!!!
I don't mind being your partner in crime. Normally Dreamer is in that role ... oh well, easy come, easy go!
Seriously, you did a good thing today and even thought we are being our sarcastic selves, I know that we will all make an effort to start a new message directly to the person when things get too "chatty". I'm just not sure that I want to go to a totally different forum to do so? For eg. if you and Luv2 started a new message to“chat”, I might like it to STAY on Decorating and Design so I can read it and possibly join in. In many cases, it is more than just two people "chatting". Others don’t have to read any follow-ups but at least we can all keep track without having to move back and forth between forums. What do you guys think about this?
or whatever soon - over 900 posts. Artsy's right - you should be able to just chat about whatever you like!
I guess it was the 80's stuff that did us all in.
but the ones who "talk" the most generally also "contibute" the most wouldn't you say? ... and no, I'm not talking about myself here. Maybe if we post a certain number of suggestion, pictures or ideas we can win a "get out of jail free card" where we don't have to follow the "chat" rules for lets say 15 minutes or something? Heheheh :D
And Dreamer ... where are you when we need you? She probably doesn't have a clue what is going on!
Just like school - Miss ___, you are talking too much. PLease let the rest of the class concentrate on their work. Oh, the shame! Hehe
if this happened and the entire forum moved over here to "chat" with us??!!! Okay, I'm just killing myself laughing now, hehehehehe ;)
Maybe we should have a rule that we can only banter back and forth three maybe four times before we have to go stand in the "free for all/general” corner. Hmmm ... I don't know how Dreamer is going to take this news, or me for that matter, LOL. :D We definitely have to come up with a “code” so that we can all skiddle over here without everyone knowing, hehe!
I guess it's Free for All rather than D&D for our off topics. OK by me I guess. Don't mean to be butting in, but I always check the other forums in case there's anything interesting and saw your posts. I agree with you both - the chat does help the newbies feel more comfortable, but I guess I can see it the other way too. Good for you to start this Dy'n. We can only hope it oesn't change too drastically. I love this forum and the people on it!
Hi Dy’n
First, thanks for thinking of me in this way. I completely respect that you are trying to help Jason out with this and I would also like to if I can. Ultimately, it is for H & H to decide how to handle this. It is my thinking (just a guess) that the vast majority of people enjoy the forum as it is in it’s current format. Yes, there are “chats” along the way, sometimes more than others but overall we are a cohesive group that all get along and most important are able to share AMAZING ideas and information with each other. I have gone to “other” Canadian decorating forums and there is no contest! This is the only one that I “belong” too. You know the expression ... if it’s not broken, don’t fix it? Well, maybe that applies here.
I indicated to Jason to have a “peak” at our conversation and I am sure that other “birdies” are reading this. I do not mean to speak on anyone’s behalf. These are just my personal feeling and I think you and I are on a similar page regarding this. This of course DOES NOT take any merit away from other members opinions and no one should feel that they cannot make a suggestion! After all, isn’t that what makes life interesting, us all being different? Perhaps we should “invite” some other regulars over for a chat? Or maybe they are already here?? Any comments birdies?
Please, please, please don't think that! I am really glad that were are able to discuss this openly. Absolutely I am not taking this the wrong way! Please check back in a while as I will expand more but I have to do so between coats. :)
Hi Dy’n, before I respond to Jason I WOULD like to discuss this with you. Yes, of course I too am guilty of getting off topic and I fully admit that Dreamer and I should cool it so thank you for bringing this to my attention!
In saying this, I personally enjoy reading the “progression” of messages. Before I ever registered, I use to read the topics that interested me from top to bottom! If the title didn’t interest me, I would skip over it. As you know, there are those who register, ask their 20 questions and we never hear from them again but I have noticed that many “lurkers” actually come out of the woodwork on “chatty” topics and generally tend to have more longevity on the forum. Maybe this is because the “conversational” messages make new members feel more comfortable. I admit that I felt intimidated when I started posting because I thought you “Guru’s/Decorating Gods” might eat me up and spit me out, hehe ;). Seriously, I strongly believe that the long-term success of the forum is to attract new members! I am certain that H & H is overwhelmed and thrilled by the response and success of the forums!
I can absolutely see both sides. The first is members that perhaps don’t have as much time to read all of the messages. This I think is where the “search” function can be helpful as you can research a topic by reading past messages on it. The second side are those who have more time and as a result tend to “chat” with other “regular” members. This of course leads to conversations that sometimes get off topic!
One thing that I have started to do myself is to post a message directly to a person when things start getting off topic. I don’t like taking up space on someone else’s message (mind you, I only recently started doing this). Funnily enough, this is how the 80’s thread started last night. I titled my message directly to Dreamer and it went to 85 messages in one evening (Jody expanded it for me today)! I think this is a prime example that sometimes members just want to talk with no “decorating” strings attached. This shouldn’t be a problem, I believe, if a separate message is created.
I agree 100% with Jason's comment about being “smart” about what steps to take. My business background has very much involved dealing with large numbers of people and finding systems and rules that will keep everyone happy! So I will give more thought to a solution. My initial reaction is to agree with others to set up another forum where two or more people can go to “chat” (similar to what you just did to me). Whatever the solution is, IT CAN’T BE COMPLICATED or it won’t work. I know this from experience.
For the record, I am very sorry if I have in any way, shape or form annoyed anyone with my banter!!!
Sorry for the long message ... do you have any more thoughts?
of you - taking time to actually paint!?! I thought we just talked about decorating...you mean you ACTUALLY do it? LOL!
I'm just typing something now, sorry I was painting!