I am not asking for your last name I am interested in did you change your name when you got married. My sons are all getting married this year and 1 DIL is changing her name to his 1 is adding hers to his and 1 is keeping her name. When I got married many years ago you didn't have a choice. What was your reason for doing what you did and what have you done with your childrens names. Just trying to understand their reasons.
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I've been married twice. The first time was in the very early 70's and I used my husband's name for about a year, then went back to my own name. I'm not sure why - maybe because it was the 70's and I was quite involved in the women's movement. We divorced a few years later, I was on my own for a few years and re-married. I continued to use my own name, and never even thought of taking his name or hyphenating our names. We're still married, I'm glad to say, and still using our own names!
I changed it with the first marriage and that crashed (thankfully/mutually with no regrets) and didn't plan on marrying ever again, or changing it for this marriage but .... :D I did 'cause that was a running joke between DH and I that I wouldn't ever change it again and his response was..."well, I guess we will never get married"... From a professional perspective I would have liked to keep my maiden name (the name I was schooled with), and hyphenating wasn't an option... too long for kids to ever spell out..too much confusion for kids to explain..and even changing has caused a stir because it is French canadian in nature... Dh isn't french at all but I had it in school and spoke and still do (un petit peur)so, if people (telemarketers) call and start out in french, I can tell them to speak english...and english telemarketers can't pronounce our name correctly .. so I just hang up !
In Quebec your legal name is your birth last name. So even though you have a married name many documents have the birth name. So what I did was use both. My birth name and then my married name on thing s that were not considered legal documents etc. My medical card has my birth last name and if you go to hosp. you are registered under it.
I do not think any province requires you to use a married name , it is a choice as I do not think marriage makes the name legally yours. Just a custom to take your partners last name . I may be wrong but that is how I understand it. :)