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HHassist

:(

I joined a networking group to help my biz, but I soooooo regret it. :( It's really infringing on me & my time. Now I know I have to work at getting word out about my biz, which is why I joined in the first place, but it has ended up being not at all what I expected. Sigh....I had to pay $500 (non-refundable) to join.

They are having all these meetings and courses and training blah blah blah which are entirely unrelated to me. These are the kind of things I said good ridance to when I left my office job, and here I am in them again, but now it's on MY time

AND, I'm not getting any referrals out of it. All the business I've had so far, I've gotten from OUTSIDE this group - so it's not like I'm actually benefitting.

Now, there's some stupid training session that I'm "required" to go to....REQUIRED???? Excuse me? I paid you, and you tell me what to do? GRRRRR

Would I be completely stupid just to walk away from it? Even though I spent the $$$?

I'm so upset!

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Anonymous

You can definitely deduct from your taxes, under membership dues.

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Anonymous

How can you even contemplate calling yourself that. You are courageous, talented, and very bright. No problem is so large it cannot be run away from. Try and stick with it, but if you think you'll go crazy, just follow Elvis and leave the building!!!

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Anonymous

I like PaulD's conception - you paid, but you got valuable life experience in return! I don't belong to any networking groups, but my father belongs to many. I have never heard of one that REQUIRED the members take a class, and a recruitment session sounds scary. It sounds like they are most interested in perpetuating themselves, rather than advancing the endeavours of the members!

I appreciate hearing your story, I have learned a lesson too, today. I thank you most sincerely for sharing, Paula. If I ever decide I want to join a networking group, I will be armed with some questions to ask. And, by the way, you are light years away from being a dummy.

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It's not a multi level marketing group, although I can very much see why you would think that - it does sound like it, doesn't it? (Unless they're going to spring that on me next! - hmmm...wouldn't be surprised actually)

And yes, PaulD - there is a recruiting session. :(

Oh well - I have made my decision to leave the group and put it down to a lesson learned.

I really had a gut instinct to not join, but thought I was being silly. I sure wish I'd listened to my inner voice!!! :( I can think of much better things to do with that $500!!!

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Anonymous

Paula, is that the BNI group???

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Anonymous

luv2 is right, this DOES sound cultish. For some reason, pyramid scheme jumps into my head..... not sure why, and it probably isn't one, but the whole "you must do what we say after you give us your money" aspect of it is really bothersome.

This is a group for adults that takes your money, and then they force you to "go to class" or else?? Geez, you can get away with skipping a few classes when you're a teenager in high school!!

Definitely walk away and chalk up your loss as a valuable lesson learned!!

Oh, and edited to add -- you are NOT a dummy!!!!

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Anonymous

Well, unfortunately, I can't only attend certain meetings. Another thing I wasn't aware of up front was their "attendance requirement". I can only miss 3 meetings in 6 months or I'm kicked out.

I feel like I've been duped!

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Anonymous

Very good points and I really appreciate them - I feel better! :)

I've been with the group for 4 months, & I feel that's more than enough time for trying them out.

Thanks :)

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