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Michael, I think it's wonderful that you want to "parent" your friends baby. I'm sure you guys will be fabulous role models and a great second family. My husband and I applied to adopt yesterday - we filed our official application. Have you guys thought about going that route, or do you have a friend that would "bear" children for your and your DH? Heck, if I could get pregnant again I'd do it in a heartbeat, if I didn't want more children myself :-)

Good luck. Hope your dreams come true.

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I know it is difficult for straight, married couples to adopt a newborn and I can imagine that it is significantly harder for a gay couple to adopt - but what about an older child? Or a child with an illness or special needs? Those children are of course less "adoptable", but still need loving homes. Maybe it would be "easier" to adopt such a child? Have you and your partner ever investigated this as an option?

By the way - having children in your home will really stretch your designing creativity - they are messy little creatures and common household items pose safety hazards - you would need to re-decorate!!

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Ditto! What we need more of in this world are loving, committed families. I have never understood the logic governments use in determining who should and shouldn't be together. Just really pisses me off!!! We won't go there today :-)

But I understand the international adoption pricetag - it ranges from $25,000 - $50,000. Have you considered a private adoption by family and children services? You know, just speaking from my own mouth, maybe there are other "alternative" couples out there who understand your situation, and would help you through the process. Have you ever spoken to a Family And Children Services lawyer??? Not to raise your hopes, but I sure as heck would not give up on thinking the impossible.

What about fostering???

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to you & your DH for the new baby- to have so much love in his/her life!!

And to you Dekota on filing- best of luck to you!! I take my hat off !what a huge step - one we often consider but are not ready for, I hope all goes exactly the way you want it!;)

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