so i decide to play and do some tweaking around the house, an attempt to keep my mind busy, when oldest DD tells me she has adominal pain and its only getting worse. So off to emergency we go, we didnt wait too long in waiting room and a nurse comes out and calls her name, so i stand up with her expecting to go in with her when the nurse said, " oh you can just wait here" WELL sh!t, ...............so im sitting in the waiting room with knots in my stomach and could throw up. This is the first time i have not been with my child when sick or in pain at a hospital. :cry: Almost two hours goes by and a nurse comes to get me, my daughter was devastated as she kept asking these nurses to bring me in, she was scared and in horrible pain, finally one of the nurses listened to her and came and got me. So i asked the NICE nurse why was i made to sit in the waiting room, ecspecially when dd wanted me in there with her, well, its because she just turned 18 in January, she is now considered an adult, but she said in so many words, that it can completely depend on the nurse and her mood at the time. WHAT AND THE HELL IS UP WITH THAT:mad:.......Yes, if my dd requested not to have me in there, that is her right but she made it clear to them she wanted me with her., yes i know she isnt a baby anymore but regardless of what they think or what anyone thinks she is still my baby and when she is ill and in pain i feel i have every freaking right to be there to comfort her. further more they are just barely adults, still so much to learn, she still lives at home with me, she is still under my care.....hell she isnt even done highshcool until june.............i bet if this was that nurses child, she would have her ass in there with her child and rightly so. Eight hours later and we are home, they are puzzled but are treating her for UT infection.
RANT OVER....sorry i really needed to vent this, it still burns me
janetc
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oh yes DBD extremely painful, apparently as the stone moves it causes spasms, oh my gosh it seems as bad as someone in labour.....although DD handled it better than i likely would have.
thank you Inglewood and sweetpea for your kind words, her pain is at bay but im not sure if she has passed the stone yet, she still has little discomfort.
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janetc
I hope DD passes it soon and is on the mend.
boy, you must be glad to have some answers. So is this one of those painful 'passing stone' things we hear about? I sure hope not and that it all goes well and she's back to her old self soon.
Janet...Glad you now know why your DD was in so much pain...hopefully the kidney stone is passed soon & easily.
well its one week later, dd took the antibiotic, the pain improved but wasnt gone, so we were thinking likely not infection, and i dont think the dr thought it was, took her to family dr tuesday and explained to him what was going on, he was puzzled too, so basically said go for ultra sound as scheduled on thursday (today) Well that was fine until she ended up in excruciating pain last night around supper time, so back to emerg we go, pumped her full of drugs, did blood and urine test again, blood work still not showing infection but blood in urine. They left her IV in and sent us on our way at about 11 oclock last night, but we had to return this morning for ultrasound and the dr recommended having her go through emerg again, this way we would get the results of the ultrasound right away, instead of a week from now at the family doctors, the ultrasound did show a kidney stone, thank god we finally have answers, and the nurses she had were excellent!!!! so accomadating and understanding :clapping: One nurse went as far as saying how he felt it was horrible that she had to wait a week for the ultra sound...it was upsetting, but im just happy we have answers and now its a waiting game for the stone to pass.
thank you
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janetc
Next time insist. Not sure where you are, but here in Ontario they have imposed limits on the number of people that can accompany someone in emerg - post-sars stuff, you know. But everyone, regardless of age, is entitled to have one person accompany them (children under 18 can have 2 parents). If this happens to anyone, immediately seek out a supervisor in the area and if that fails go higher. No one (barring certain serious trauma and infection circumstances) can be barred from having an assistant/advocate with them in emerg.
Yes there are sure some staff that pull power when they are cranky. It's not so awful if they explain but when they just act like autocrats for no reason it's really annoying. I can see them keeping mom out with an 18 year old (just to make sure they get any info child may not want to reveal in front of parent) but if child is asking for parent, seems to me they should let parent in. Most of the time it's nice to have someone else there just to make sure you get all the info in and out.
Last time I took my mom to emerg she was in terrible shape and on morphine. Now if you have ever been around morphine you know it makes communications quite impossible. Well they refused to let me in with her even though I told them I might be able to shed some light on what was going on (my mom had cancer and we had spent alllll day at labs having tests done) and thanks to her stupid doctor insisting she be taken to that hospital rather than the one that had her records, they had no history or anything on her. I had never had a problem in emerg before in this respect but they would not let me go back until a few hours later.
Well the doctor was there and I asked if they had any questions and sure enough....he told me I could have saved them an hour or two if they had known about the tests (because all he had to do was call the lab we went to to find out the latest results). I didn't hesitate to point to nurse Ratched and I hope she got a finger or five waved at her.
The best I have heard though is someone I know who got held back and just walked right up to the desk and showed him his CBC ID and asked if they minded if he called in some cameras. Now that's a way to get some satisfaction.
Oh yeah, hope they told you to go get some cranberry juice. That helps a lot with UTI's.
Janet - I think your daughter should send a brief, polite note to the hospital. If someone is asking for somebody to be by their side and there is room, there shouldn't be a problem.
That nurse is likely a b*tch no matter where she is.
yes i agree sweetpea, i know it isnt always easy, but as i was sitting there, im thinking, "geesh, i can go in with my husband as long as there are no bands on with virus's but i cant go in with my young daughter
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janetc
You would think that she could have at least come to get you though......it would have been such an easy thing to do and would have meant so much to your daughter.
oh for sure, i too believe they are stressed and over worked and that is why i always stay patient and understanding and i have witnessed a bit of the treatment they recieve from some of the patients, but they must try and be nice to the ones that arent giving them a hard time. I too have a friend that is a nurse and when i was defending the behaviour of some of the nurses, she said there are some that just shouldnt be in the profession, they are unhappy but financially they need to stay working as a nurse and it shows in the way they treat people.
Oh well, we got through it, i know the day will come when i wont always be able to be there, but today just wasnt that day yet. ;)
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janetc
Hi Janet....That is to bad that you had such a bad experience to-day...I don't understand what is the matter with some so called professionals...you should have definately been able to go in with DD if she had requested that.....some people don't know how to put themselves in another persons situation..more compassion is needed in the health care field....I hope DDis feeling better..I get ut infections & they are very painful.
There seem to be a few bad ones in every profession. I have had nightmare experiences in Emergency too. My friend who is a nurse in Emergency says that they are stressed, overworked and underpaid. All I can say is I wouldn't want her job from the stories she tells me.
You would think that she could have at least come to get you though......it would have been such an easy thing to do and would have meant so much to your daughter.